More often than not, dating a man's potential is the long road to disaster, so listen to who he says he is and take him at his word. If you can love who he is now and not have your attraction be based on who he might become, then you're in good shape. If you're not, well, then you best keep looking because most people have different aspirations than you might have for them.

Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with