15 Quotes by Alfred Hayes

We go from disappointment to disappointment, from hope to denial, from expectation to surrender, as we grow older, thinking or coming to think that what was wrong was the wanting, so intense it hurt us, and believing or coming to believe that hope was our mistake and expectation our error, and that everything the more we want it the more difficult the having it seems to be.

Lo único que no perdimos, pensé, es la capacidad para el sufrimiento. El sufrimiento nos sale bien. Pero es un sufrimiento silenciosísimo. No molestamos a nuestros vecinos con él. Nos desplomamos, pero nos desplomamos con la mayor disciplina imaginable. Así somos. Sin duda, así somos. Desplomadores disciplinados.

The only thing we haven’t lost, I thought, is the ability to suffer. We’re fine at suffering. But it’s such a noiseless suffering. We never disturb the neighbors with it. We collapse, but we collapse in the most disciplined way. That’s us. That’s certainly us. The disciplined collapsers.

How intolerable now the weight of what I was seemed upon me. How subtle a punishment life had devised. Often I felt as though my own pain had cornered me in some room and I was alone with it, like some animal that was inescapable.

I had no idea what a delicious feeling it was, to be free, to be absolutely unconcerned about whether one loved or didn’t love. It was such a bore, loving. Being so concerned, so dreadfully afraid of saying the wrong thing or doing the wrong thing. She was so glad to be rid of it, all the concern.

There were times when I would forget her, though they were rare, and it would be for a time as though she had never existed; and then some passing girl’s inadvertent gesture, or an accidental profile, or a hat like hers, would restore her, and restore the suffering too, and I would long again, somehow, to encounter or to see her.