72 Quotes by Beverly Engel

Abused partners tend either to take on the criticism and rejection of their partner or to be in constant turmoil.

Emotional abuse is considered by many to be the most painful form of violence and the most detrimental to self-esteem.

Apology reminds us that each person (including ourselves) deserves to be respected and treated fairly.

Emotional abuse cuts to the very core of a person, creating scars that may be longer lasting than physical ones.

It is my contention that Nice Girl behavior sets women up to be misused and abused. This does not mean that women cause men to become abusive. It does not mean that women are masochists. What it does mean is that by being too nice, women send a strong message to those who already have a tendency to use and abuse. The message is: “My need to be seen as nice (or sweet or innocent) is more powerful than my instinct to protect myself.”

If you are being abusive, you need strategies to help you catch yourself in the act and find healthier ways to cope with stress, anger, disappointment, insecurity, and shame.

Emotional abuse is a major epidemic in our culture.

Emotional abuse is the least understood form of abuse.

Ultimately, given enough time, most victim of emotional abuse come not only to blame themselves for all the problems in the relationship come not only to blame themselves for all the problems in the relationship but also to believe that they are inadequate, contemptuous, and even unlovable.