31 Quotes by Brad Blanton

One of these games is called, “Okay, okay, I’m guilty.” This game is to make it look like you have taken responsibility for yourself when you haven’t. Admitting you are guilty is a great way to avoid being responsible.

You can be really mad at someone and hurt by him or her and stay stuck there. Or you can tell them and express it out loud and what was true a moment ago becomes no longer true.

The most wonderful thing about this whole process is that people’s contributions to the lives of others become the primary means of getting the results they want in their own lives.

When incessant grieving occurs, it is usually out of the person’s attempt to handle anger by crying and feeling bad and having obsessional thoughts.

Your anger is unreasonable and unfair. Let it stay that way. Trying to make it seem reasonable – which usually consists of trying to make the resented person wrong – is the source of all the judgments and explanations that remove you further from the person and further from your experience of the sensations that arose in your body.

Love is when you let someone be the way she is. When you let up on your judgments of someone, there is a free space in which forgiveness and love occur.

When the truth changes from your speaking, you know you’ve spoken the truth.

It may feel less secure than if everyone agrees on what is true, but the feeling of security is just that – a feeling, not the real thing. Less secure is often more reliable.

Manipulation never works to get the result desired, but it always seems like it’s just about to work. When you get what you said you wanted by manipulation, it is never enough.