122 Quotes by Daniel J. Siegel

Every time we say “Convince me” or “Come up with a solution that works for both of us,” we give our kids the chance to practice problem solving and decision making. We help them consider appropriate behaviors and consequences, and we help them think about what another person feels and wants. All because we found a way to engage the upstairs, instead of enraging the downstairs.

In a brain scan, relational pain – that caused by isolation during punishment – can look the same as physical abuse. Is alone in the corner the best place for your child?

When we spend money on others, for example, we feel more content than when we spend money on ourselves. This is a kind of well-being rooted in meaning, connection, and equanimity – called eudaimonia by the ancient Greeks and in modern times perhaps called “inner” or “true” happiness.

For example, one of the most powerful ways we connect with our children is simply by physically touching them.

You can be grateful for what you enjoy, not longing for what you are missing.

We will honor the controversy, and explore possibilities rather than assert absolutes.

This is the PART we play in helpful communication. PART means that we are present, attune, resonate, and create trust.

There’s no question about it: consistency is crucial when it comes to raising and disciplining our children.

When neurons fire together, they grow new connections between them. Over time, the connections that result from firing lead to “rewiring” in the brain. This.