117 Quotes by David D. Burns

Bir şeyi istemekle ona gereksinim duymak arasında fark vardır. Oksijen bir gereksinim, sevgi ise bir istektir.Sevgi erişkin bir insanın gereksinim duyduğu bir şey değildir. Diğer insanlarla sevgi dolu ilişkiler kurmak istemek doğaldır. Bunda yanlış bir şey yoktur. Sevdiğiniz birisiyle güzel bir ilişki içinde olmak çok keyiflidir. ancak, yaşamak veya mutluluğunuzu tepelerde yaşayabilmek için dıştan gelen onaya, sevgiye ve ilgiye gereksiniminiz yoktur.

People who are prone to anxiety are nearly always people-pleasers who fear conflict and negative feelings like anger. When you feel upset, you sweep your problems under the rug because you don't want to upset anyone. You do this so quickly and automatically that you're not even aware you're doing it.

Cognitive therapy is based on the idea that when you change the way you think, you can change the way you feel and behave. In other words, if we can learn to think about other people in a more positive and realistic way, it will be far easier to resolve conflicts and develop rewarding personal and professional relationships.

Negative thinking patterns can be immensely deceptive and persuasive, and change is rarely easy. But with patience and persistence, I believe that nearly all individuals suffering from depression can improve and experience a sense of joy and self-esteem once again.

Every time you feel depressed about something, try to identify a corresponding negative thought you had just prior to and during the depression. Because these thoughts have actually created your bad mood, by learning to restructure them, you can change your mood.

When you change the way you think, you can change the way you feel.

Depression has been called the worlds number one public health problem. In fact, depression is so widespread it is considered the common cold of psychiatric disturbances. But there is a grim difference between depression and a cold. Depression can kill you.

Depression can seem worse than terminal cancer, because most cancer patients feel loved and they have hope and self-esteem.

I had the fear of heights when I was young, along with many other fears and phobias, including the fear of dogs, bees, horses, and blood.