16 Quotes by David Schnarch

Nobody’s Ready for Marriage – Marriage Makes You Ready for Marriage.

Wanting creates the space in which our highest aspirations come into being.

When we stand up and confront ourselves in ways our parents have not, a desire for justice makes it harder to forgive them in some ways. However, the increased differentiation this endeavor provides allows one to better self-soothe, to validate one’s own experience, thereby unhooking the need for confession from one’s parent. At this point, forgiveness becomes an act of self-caring and a deliberate decision to get on with one’s life.

It is the power patriarchal societies try to diminish by infantalizing women by calling them doll, chick, babe, and girl regardless of their age.

We approach romance like a privileged form of suffering that makes us feel more alive – living dangerously, magnificently, and tragically.

Weak people are destructive; powerful people are constructive. Powerful people create, facilitate, and make things happen.

Our self-made crises are custom-tailored, painstakingly crafted, and always fit perfectly.