61 Quotes by Dossie Easton

For us, when our sexual lifestyle is essential to our sense of identity, anybody who doesn't know about our kink doesn't really know us.

When you respect your limits, other will learn to respect them too.

Fighting is the ultimate act of intimacy.(...) Intimacy is based on shared vulnerability.

No one "makes" you feel jealous or insecure, the person who makes you feel that way is you. [...] when you blame someone else for how you feel, you disempower yourself.

A great many people do believe that to be single is to be somehow incomplete and that they need to find the other half. [...] We believe, on the other hand, that the fundamental sexual unit is one person. Adding more people to that unit may be intimate, fun and companionable, but does not complete anybody.

We have been taught that forgiveness is a singular act to be completed in one sitting. That is not so. Forgiveness has many layers. It is also taught that forgiveness means to overlook, to act as though a thing had not occurred. This is not true either.

A lot of people describe having sex with only one person as 'being faithful'.It seems to me that faithfulness has very little to do with who you have sex with. Faithfulness is about honoring your commitments and respecting your friends and lovers, about caring for their well-being as well as your own.

One remedy for the fear of not being loved is to remember how good it feels to love someone. If you're feeling unloved and you want to feel better, go love someone, and see what happens.

The important thing is to be aware of your needs and wants, so you can go about getting them met with full consciousness. If you pretend that you have no needs for sex, for affection, for emotional support, you are lying to yourself, and you will wind up trying to get your needs met by indirect methods that don't work very well. [...]Do not commit yourself to a lifetime of hinting and hoping