32 Quotes by Franklin Veaux

You’ll need courage because polyamorous relationships can be scary. Loving other people without a script is scary. Allowing the people you love to make their own choices without controlling them is scary. The kind of courage we’re talking about involves being willing to let go of guarantees – and love and trust your partners anyway.

Change is the one eternal of life. What I have now I will cherish, and what we build tomorrow I will cherish, without fear.

What boundaries can you set to protect your actual needs? How important is your own autonomy? Are you communicating your boundaries and needs?

An omission is a lie when it is calculated to conceal information that, where it known to the other party, would be materially relevant to her.

The most immediate is that if you tell your partner “It’s okay to ask for anything you want,” it better be true. If you’re not prepared to make it safe for your partner to open up to you, he won’t. Because he’ll feel he can’t.

A sense of worth is critical to counteracting the scarcity model of love and life. If we do not believe in our worth, we become disempowered, unable to advocate for our needs. We do not see or embrace the love that is actually around us in our lives.

Things will go wrong. You and your partners will make mistakes. People will get hurt. To paraphrase Voltaire, we are all born of frailty and error. What happens afterward depends on how capable we are to forgive one another for our errors, handle the consequences with grace and dignity, and learn from our mistakes.

When we make ourselves vulnerable to others, we do more than show them how we value their friendship. We show that we trust them and are willing to be seen by them. We choose to let them show us the best of themselves.

The agreements that work most consistently are those that are rooted in compassion, encourage mutual respect and empowerment, leave it to our partners’ judgment how to implement them, and have input from – and apply equally to – everyone affected by them. T.