94 Quotes by Gavin de Becker

Denial is a save now, pay later scheme.

You have more brain cells than there are grains of sand on your favorite beach, and you have cleverness, dexterity, and creativity – all of which powerfully combine when you are at risk – if you listen to your intuition.

The woman whose shoulders tense slightly, who looks intimidated and shyly says, “No, thanks, I think I’ve got it,” may be his victim. Conversely, the woman who turns toward him, raises her hands to the STOP position, and says directly, “I don’t want your help,” is less likely to be his victim. A.

Every day people engaged in the clever defiance of their own intuition become, in midthought, victims of violence and accidents. So when we wonder why we are victims so often, the answer is clear: It is because we are so good at it.

You have the gift of a brilliant internal guardian that stands ready to warn you of hazards and guide you through risky situations.

Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster.

Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait.

Perhaps the most admirable reason to seek rapport would be to put someone at ease, but if that is a stranger’s entire intent, a far simpler way is to just leave the woman alone. Charm.

The solution to violence in America is the acceptance of reality.