24 Quotes by Gina Senarighi

If you’re not asking yourself how you’ve contributed to the conflicts between you and your partner, then you’re not being brave in conversations or with yourself.

Couples who stay curious about each other, engaged in learning about their partners, open to growing together fare better long term. They're able to adapt to changes and navigate bumps in the road with resilience.  And they maintain passion and intimacy by fueling a sense of discovery and space for fascination, mystery, and surprise.

Too much and too little communication is killing our relationships.

Lots of couples get stuck blaming and finger-pointing about topics and can feel likethere’s no way out.The antidote to blame is personal accountability.Moving to a mindset of accountability means looking at and owning your contribution to theconflict (however small it may be).

Self-compassion is critical in accountability. We often overcorrect by shaming and blamingourselves or under correct by avoiding ways to face accountability directly.Using self-compassion doesn’t mean letting yourself off the hook for missteps, but owning them and still holding space to love yourself. Adding compassion to accountability processes decreases shame and isolation and increases growth and connection.

Judgment separates us from the people we want to be close to incredibly quickly. Whether it’s our internal self-judgment that shuts down opportunity for connection or our judgment of others that makes it hard for loved ones to open up to us, judgment is cancer for authenticity inrelationships.

Empathy means giving compassionate attention to another by either silently or verbally reflecting their feelings and needs. There’s no need to fix or take care of the other person’s experience, only to offer warmth, acceptance and respect for their perspective and experience.

One of the clearest paths to building strong and healthy relationships is practicing mutualcompassionate accountability.

While many of us struggle with taking too much ownership over things that are not ours, there’salways a truth that both parties contribute to every conflict.Sometimes your part might be as simple as not speaking up or not staying curious; other times it might be a bigger issue, like a tendency to blame or shout, a lack of accountability, an inability to respect boundaries or projecting insecurities.