23 Quotes by Gordon Neufeld

Children do not experience our intentions, no matter how heartfelt. They experience what we manifest in tone and behavior.

We used to think that schools built brains. Now we know that it is play that builds the brains that school can then use.

We only feel like being good for those to whom we are attached to. We weren't meant to raise and teach children whose hearts we did not have. We have resorted to all kinds of tricks with our children because we don't have enough natural attachment power to do our job. When we use these tricks, we insult the relationship.

Children learn best when they like their teacher and they think their teacher likes them.

Auklėjimo paslaptis - ne tai, ką tėvai daro, o tai, ką jie reiškia savo vaikui.

Mes labiau rūpinamės pamaitinti savo vaikus ir nekreipiame dėmesio į patį valgymo ritualą, kurio paskirtis - palaikyti šeimos narių tarpusavio ryšį.

Digital intimacy ruins the appetite for the real thing. So, when kids are gaming or even when spouses are gaming, they lose their appetite for genuine intimacy. Kids lose their appetite for getting their intimacy needs, their hunger for significance and attachment, with the family, and it erodes the relationship between them and their parents.

Many people think that discipline is the essence of parenting. But that isn't parenting. Parenting is not telling your child what to do when he or she misbehaves. Parenting is providing the conditions in which a child can realize his or her full human potential.

Children need to trust and depend upon those who are responsible for them.