28 Quotes by Guy Winch

Much as we would like to believe we are an enlightened society, our track record when it comes to accepting those who are different from ourselves argues otherwise.

Recovering from heartbreak always starts with a decision, a determination to move on when our mind is fighting to keep us stuck.

Emotional pain should not and need not be a constant companion. Do not let it become one.

Intense ruminations can often make us so focused on our own emotional needs that we become blind to those of the people around us and our relationships often suffer as a result.

What makes letting go so challenging is that we need to let go of far more than mere emotional pain – we need to let go of hope, of the fantasy in which we undo what went wrong, of the psychological presence the person or pet has in our daily thoughts, and thus, in our lives. We need to truly say good-bye – to turn away from love, even when there is no longer a person or animal there to receive it. And we need to let go of a part of ourselves, of the person we were when our love still mattered.

The more distractions we have from which to choose, the more effectively we will be able to derail the ruminative train of thoughts that plague us.

No one wakes up screaming in the middle of the night consumed with guilt about the chocolate cheesecake they wolfed down last Christmas.

In 2001 the office of the surgeon general of the United States issued a report that found social rejection to be a greater risk factor for adolescent violence than gang membership, poverty, or drug use.

For example, if a college student fails a midterm exam, she might view herself as less capable and view the class as more difficult, making her more worried and less confident about doing well on the final. While some students might knuckle down and work harder as a result, others might become so intimidated they begin to question whether they can pass the class at all.