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And we will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy.
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Request an apology when you believe you deserve one, but don't get in a tug of war about it. Instead, be a role model and tender a genuine apology yourself when an apology is due. Your willingness to apologize can be contagious and models maturity for your partner. Also, your non-apologizing partner may use a nonverbal way to reconnect after a fight, defuse the tension, or show you he's in a new place and wants to repair a disconnection. Accept the olive branch however it's offered.
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If you pursue a distancer, he or she will distance more. Consider it a fundamental law of physics.
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Feeling essentially superior to other people is as sure a sign of poor self-esteem as feeling essentially inferior.
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Judging people for whom they love (a same sex partner) rather than by whom they harm, should in itself merit a psychiatric diagnosis.
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Sometimes the most helpful thing you can do is to stop trying to be helpful.
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You can't evaluate a prospective partner if you insulate your relationship from your family and friends--and his.
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Kids want nothing more than for all the important adults in their life to get along.
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The miracle is that your children will love you with all your imperfections if you can do the same for them.
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