685 Quotes by Iyanla Vanzant

The only way to get what you really want is to let go of what you don’t want.

Love is not all that is required in a relationship. It needs understanding, openness, kidness, patience, long-suffering.

If you are afraid to take a chance, take one anyway. What you don’t do can create the same regrets as the mistakes you make.

If you don’t enjoy your life, sorrow, sadness, suffering, fear, shame and guilt will.

Right where you are is where you need to be. Don’t fight it! Don’t run away from it! Stand firm! Take a deep breath. And another. And another. Now, ask yourself: Why is this in my world? What do I need to see?

Until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed.

I’ve always told the truth. I think that’s been part of the foundation of my career. I don’t put myself above people. I don’t put myself different than people. And I, for one, know that none of us is immune.

One of the ways that people avoid taking responsibility for their role in their own pain is what I call the BPs – blame and projection.

Much to my surprise, as I set them free, I was able to forgive myself for the judgments I had made about them. I now hold them in a loving space in my heart and honor them as my ancestors who love me and guide me each day.