180 Quotes by John Gray

Martians talk about problems for only two reasons: they are blaming someone or they are seeking advice. If a woman is really upset a man assumes she is blaming him. If she seems less upset, then he assumes she is asking for advice.

Quite often, when one partner makes a positive change the other will also change. This predictable coincidence is one of those magical things about life.

Most men are not only hungry to give love but are starving for it. Their biggest problem is that they do not know what they are missing.

Opening the heart results in greater forgiveness and increased motivation to give and receive love and support.

Not only do men and women communicate differently but they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love, need, and appreciate differently.

You probably know stories of couples who never fight or argue and then suddenly to everyone’s surprise they decide to get a divorce. In many of these cases, the woman has suppressed her negative feelings to avoid having fights. As a result she becomes numb and unable to feel her love. When negative feelings are suppressed positive feelings become suppressed as well, and love dies. Avoiding arguments and fights certainly is healthy but not by suppressing feelings.

Men typically give in relationships what men want, while women give what women want. Each mistakenly assumes that the other has the same needs and desires.

Men go to their caves... Women talk.

To feel better, women talk about past problems, future problems, potential problems, even problems that have no solutions. The more talk and exploration, the better they feel. This is the way women operate. To expect otherwise is to deny a woman her sense of self.