160 Quotes by Lori Gottlieb

The grief psychologist William Worden takes into account these questions by replacing stages with tasks of mourning. In his fourth task, the goal is to integrate the loss into your life and create an ongoing connection with the person who died while also finding a way to continue living.

With aging comes the potential to accrue many losses: health, family, friends, work, and purpose.

I think of a Flannery O’Connor quote: “The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it.

Don’t judge your feelings; notice them. Use them as your map. Don’t be afraid of the truth.

There’s an unspoken irony to all of this. People wanted a speedy solution to their problems, but what id their moods had been driven down in the first place by the hurried pace of their lives? They imagined they were rushing now in order to save their lives later, but so often, later never came.

But part of getting to know yourself is to unknow yourself – to let go of the limiting stories you’ve told yourself about who you are so that you aren’t trapped by them, so you can live your life and not the story you’ve been telling yourself about your life.

Did I tell you that she created a shared Google calendar to make sure I won’t forget things that are ‘important’” – with his free hand, John does an air quote as he says the word important – “so now I’m even more stressed because my calendar is filled with Margo’s things and I’ve already got a packed schedule!

Erikson maintained that, in later years, we experience a sense of integrity if we believe we have lived meaningful lives. This sense of integrity gives us a feeling of completeness so that we can better accept our approaching deaths. But if we have unresolved regrets about the past – if we think that we made poor choices or failed to accomplish important goals – we feel depressed and hopeless, which leads us to despair.

Honesty is stronger medicine than sympathy, which may console but often conceals. – Gretel Ehrlich.