263 Quotes by Marshall B. Rosenberg

Self-empathy in NVC means checking in with your own feelings and needs.

What bores the listener bores the speaker too.

Always listen to what people need rather than what they are thinking about us.

Everything we do is in service of our needs. When this one concept is applied to our view of others, we’ll see that we have no real enemies, that what others do to us is the best possible thing they know to do to get their needs met.

In NVC, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and requests.

Never connect yourself with the other person’s pain. Just hear their need. Leave yourself out of the other person’s feelings and needs.

If you are a jackal, you will try to reassure. Jackals try to fix people in pain. They can’t stand pain, but make matters worse by trying to get rid of it. Put on giraffe ears. Try to hear what they are feeling and needing.

Empathize, rather than put your “but” in the face of an angry person.

When we judge others we contribute to violence.