263 Quotes by Marshall B. Rosenberg

Classifying and judging people promotes violence.

Time and again, people transcend the paralyzing effects of psychological pain when they have sufficient contact with someone who can hear them empathically.

This language is from the head. It is a way of mentally classifying people into varying shades of good and bad, right and wrong. Ultimately, it provokes defensiveness, resistance, and counterattack. It is a language of demands.

The most important use of NVC may be in developing self-compassion.

NVC is a way of keeping our consciousness tuned in moment by moment to the beauty within ourselves.

Violence comes from the belief that other people cause our pain and therefore deserve punishment.

There are the two main reasons we don’t get our needs met. First, we don’t know how to express our needs to begin with and second if we do, we forget to put a clear request after it, or we use vague words like appreciate, listen, recognize, know, be real, and stuff like that.

Instead of playing the game “Making Life Wonderful”, we often play the game called “Who’s Right”. Do you know that game? It’s a game where everybody loses.

Never do anything that isn’t play.