263 Quotes by Marshall B. Rosenberg

This objective of getting what we want from other people – or getting them to do what we want them to do – threatens the autonomy of people, their right to choose what they want to do. And whenever people feel that they’re not free to choose what they want to do, they are likely to resist, even if they see the purpose in what we are asking and would ordinarily want to do it.

We give empathy to others for our own benefit.

Some people use NVC to respond compassionately to themselves, some to create greater depth in their personal relationships, and still others to build effective relationships at work or in the political arena. Worldwide, NVC is used to mediate disputes and conflicts at all levels.

As long as I think I ‘should’ do it, I’ll resist it, even if I want very much to do it.

When our communication supports compassionate giving and receiving, happiness replaces violence and grieving.

It’s never what people do that makes us angry; it’s what we tell ourselves about what they did.

However impressed we may be with NVC concepts, it is only through practice and application that our lives are transformed.

You can’t make your kids do anything. All you can do is make them wish they had. And then, they will make you wish you hadn’t made them wish they had.

I have tried to integrate the spirituality into the training in a way that meets my need not to destroy the beauty of it through abstract philosophizing.