60 Quotes by Meg Jay

The one thing I have learned is that you can’t think your way through life. The only way to figure out what to do is to do – something.

Knowing you want to do something isn’t the same as knowing how to do it, and even knowing how to do something isn’t the same as actually doing it well.

Sometimes dating or married couples decide to split because things change – someone cheated or had to move – but, more often, people split up because things don’t change. It is far more common to hear couples say that, in retrospect, the differences were there all along.

Many twentysomethings assume life will come together quickly after thirty, and maybe it will. But it is still going to be a different life. We imagine that if nothing happens in our twenties then everything is still possible in our thirties. We think that by avoiding decisions now, we keep all of our options open for later – but not making choices is a choice all the same.

Feeling better doesn’t come from avoiding adulthood, it comes from investing in adulthood.

The lottery question might get you thinking about what you would do if talent and money didn’t matter. But they do. The question twentysomethings need to ask themselves is what they would do with their lives if they didn’t win the lottery.

Twenty somethings who aren’t at least a little scared about their relationships are often the ones who are being the least thoughtful.

Older spouses may be more mature, but later marriage has its own challenges. Rather than growing together while their twentysomething selves are still forming, partners who marry older may be more set in their ways. And a series of low-commitment, possibly destructive relationships can create bad habits and erode faith in love. And even though searching may help you find a better partner, the pool of available singles shallows over time, perhaps in more ways than one.

Interviewers want to hear a reasonable story about the past, present, and future.