79 Quotes by Merle Shain

Friends are people who help you be more yourself, more the person you are intended to be.

The job of a friend is not to decide what should be done, not to run interference or pick up the slack. The job of a friend is to understand, and to supply energy and hope, and in doing so to keep those they value on their feet a little longer, so that they can fight another round and grow strong in themselves.

Our strength is in our dreams, and those who do not dare to dream damn themselves.

The romantic myth is so strong that it survives the wear and tear of marriage by simply detaching from it and floating up on ahead, and women who are rather fond of the men they married, as well as ones who are not, go through life with a bag packed for the day when the shining knight on a white charger arrives, just in case he does.

One can never change the past, only the hold it has on you, and while nothing in your life is reversible, you can reverse it nevertheless.

There are really only two ways to approach life - as victim or as gallant fighter - and you must decide if you want to act or react, deal your own cards or play with a stacked deck. And if you don't decide which way to play with life, it always plays with you.

Loving can cost a lot but not loving always cost more.

There are really only two ways to approach life – as victim or as gallant fighter – and you must decide if you want to act or react, deal your own cards or play with a stacked deck. And if you don’t decide which way to play with life, it always plays with you.

Loving someone means helping them to be more themselves, which can be different from being what you’d like them to be, although often they turn out the same.