126 Quotes by Pamela Druckerman

There are no grown-ups. We suspect this when we are younger, but can confirm it only once we are the ones writing books and attending parent-teacher conferences. Everyone is winging it, some just do it more confidently.

By your 40s, you don’t want to be with the cool people; you want to be with your people.

You will miss out on some near soul mates. This goes for friendships, too. There will be unforgettable people with whom you have shared an excellent evening or a few days. Now they live in Hong Kong, and you will never see them again. That’s just how life is.

If you worry less about what people think of you, you can pick up an astonishing amount of information about them. You no longer leave conversations wondering what just happened. Other people’s minds and motives are finally revealed.

To be a different kind of parent, you don’t just need a different parenting philosophy. You need a very different view of what a child actually is.

To grow up without risk is to risk not growing up.

Their fantasy men – like Yon-sama – not only wouldn’t spend their days barking drink orders from the couch, they might not ever be home at all. And that’s okay. For these women the pleasure of a fantasy lover comes not from having him but from pining for him.

When you’re wondering whether she’s his daughter or his girlfriend, she’s his girlfriend.

French parents don’t just think these separations are good for parents. They also genuinely believe that they’re important for kids, who must understand that their parents have their own pleasures. “Thus the child understands that he is not the center of the world, and this is essential for his development.