14 Quotes by Pamela Redmond Satran

I learned not to invest too much in a relationship before I really know how the other person feels.

One of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received was from my grandmother, who said, “A woman always has to keep something of her own, even if it’s a jar of quarters.” The other was from my agent, another wise woman, who told me twenty years ago: “You don’t have to tell everything you know.

Love isn’t always enough. It’s a hard lesson because we’re raised to believe that it is – it’s in every story we hear. But just because you love somebody and they love you back doesn’t mean your relationship makes sense or that it’s a good one for you both to be in. Having chemistry with someone is important, yes, but the most important thing is that the person you’re with makes you happy.

But I have learned that love is the one area where women should give themselves a break and cut bait. Men are better at that – if a guy isn’t feeling great about the relationship, he will leave and not look back. As women, we’re more analytical and more accommodating. We tend to hang in there and try harder. But if you’re with a dude who’s texting other girls, bye-bye.

So, as women, we’ve got to be pretty damn amazing to realize early on that physical perfection is neither achievable nor useful, and that all that fixing can be toxic.