241 Quotes by Paul Kalanithi

Before operating on a patient's brain, I realized, I must first understand his mind: his identity, his values, what makes his life worth living, and what devastation makes it reasonable to let that life end. The cost of my dedication to succeed was high, and the ineluctable failures brought me nearly unbearable guilt. Those burdens are what make medicine holy and wholly impossible: in taking up another's cross, one must sometimes get crushed by the weight.

Я считал язык практически сверхъестественной силой, которая заставляет наш мозг, заключенный в череп толщиной в сантиметр, вступать в коммуникацию с другими людьми. Слово приобретает смысл только в общении, а смысл жизни и ее качество неразрывно связаны с глубиной взаимоотношений, в которые мы вступаем. Именно человеческие отношения являются фундаментом значимости существования.

[H]e found poetry more comforting than Scripture—and his ability to forge from his life a cogent, powerful tale of living with death.

A word meant something only between people, and life’s meaning, its virtue, had something to do with the depth of the relationships we form.

After I was caught returning at dawn from one such late-night escapade, my worried mother thoroughly interrogated me regarding every drug teenagers take, never suspecting that the most intoxicating thing I’d experienced, by far, was the volume of romantic poetry she’d handed me the previous week. Books became my closest confidants, finely ground lenses providing new views of the world.

Yet I returned to the central values of Christianity - sacrifice, redemption, forgiveness - because I found them so compelling. There is a tension in the Bible between justice and mercy, between the Old Testament and the New Testament. And the New testament says you can never be good enough: goodness is the thing and you can never live up to it. The main message of Jesus, I believed, is that mercy trumps justice every time.

It’s very easy to be number one: find the guy who is number one, and score one point higher than he does.

Maybe the basic message of original sin isn't "Feel guilty all the time." Maybe it is more along these lines: "We all have a notion of what it means to be good, and we can't live up to it all the time.

As a chief resident, nearly all responsibility fell on my shoulders, & the opportunities to succeed -- or fail -- were greater than ever. The pain of failure had led me to understand that technical excellence was a moral requirement. Good intentions were not enough, not when so much depended on my skills, when the difference between tragedy & triumph was defined by one or two millimetres.