121 Quotes by Rachel Simmons

Silence is deeply woven into the fabric of female experience,

Gossip harms relationships and that’s why it’s bad. While we all do it at times, there’s a point where it crosses the line and becomes bullying if it damages friendships and causes people to dislike someone.

Be yourself and you will find, who minds doesn’t matter and who matters won’t mind.

You don’t learn how to say ‘hey, I have a problem,’ but you also don’t learn how to hear it. There’s a total breakdown of how females talk to one another. It’s very disconcerting for leadership because it means you don’t talk to each other; you talk about each other.

Girls may try to avoid being alone at all costs, including remaining in an abusive friendship.

Girls like Caroline and Lily are constantly performing, as much for the Good Girl they think they should be as for the adults and peers who look on. They have spent their lives growing internally dependent on external rewards: pats on the back A’s, club presidencies, Most Valuable Player trophies. They become more concerned with how they appear and should be than who they are What other think and feel replaces what is true for them.

When kindness comes at the expense of truth, it is not a kindness worth having.

Although it may seem obvious to you, your daughter needs to hear you say that no one can sanely excel at everything they do, nor should they want to. Will a life in which she does everything perfectly be a happy and healthy life for her? Focus on what is sacrificed on the altar of perfection-seeking: Self-worth. Curiosity and exploration. Hobbies. Sleep. Challenge the standards being imposed on her. Let her know you reject them.

When we invest ourselves in worrying about what other people think, we lose touch with what we stand for. By seeking others’ approval and trying to be perfect at everything we do, we disconnect from our internal compass.