1,304 Quotes by Shannon L. Alder

Empowered Women 101: A man doesn’t have to put down other women to prove his love for you. In fact, why would you teach him to be less than Christlike, in order to show his devotion? Real women don’t need the people in their life to lower others, in order to raise them up.

Don’t talk yourself into falling in love with someone. Either, you are in love or you are not. True love is not a choice. It is something you know in your heart when all guilt, doubt and fear are removed.

Anger, resentment and jealousy doesn’t change the heart of others – it only changes yours.

Don’t waste your time being what someone wants you to become, in order to feed their list of rules, boundaries and insecurities. Find your tribe. They will allow you to be you, while you dance in the rain.

Sometimes the best gifts are the ones you can’t get on your own.

Loyalty will always be found in the things you regret because it mattered.

But here is the thing about anger: People hold onto it because letting go means dealing with pain. It is a coping strategy that seems to show strength and confidence, but in reality it shows how much you care about someone’s actions, which leads to this question: Why is this person’s respect so important to you?

Don’t ever get to the point where you can’t be taught because life is a classroom and everyone owns a pen.

The devil lives in the shadow of subtle things – those things people keep hidden from others. They reside in the lies they tell themselves, in order to justify their pain or fear. It is the slight, the dig, the silence and the unspoken truth that we minimize to a passive aggressive status, as if it were a lesser evil. Integrity is not subtle. It speaks loudly, so everyone can hear and be healed. It is something you will never have to search for because it is seen and felt.