67 Quotes by Sue Johnson

Naming an emotion begins the process of regulating it and reflecting on it.

In insecure relationships, we disguise our vulnerabilities so our partner never really sees us.

When love doesn't work, we hurt. Indeed, “hurt feelings” is a precisely accurate phrase, according to psychologist Naomi Eisenberger of the University of California. Her brain imaging studies show that rejection and exclusion trigger the same circuits in the same part of the brain, the anterior cingulate, as physical pain.

Being the “best you can be” is really only possible when you are deeply connected to another. Splendid isolation is for planets, not people.

The most functional way to regulate difficult emotions in love relationships is to share them.

Love has an immense ability to help heal the devastating wounds that life sometimes deals us. Love also enhances our sense of connection to the larger world. Loving responsiveness is the foundation of a truly compassionate, civilized society.

To be human is to need others, and this is no flaw or weakness.

The key to restoring connection is, first, interrupting and dismantling these destructive sequences and then actively constructing a more emotionally open and receptive way of interacting, one in which partners feel safe confiding their hidden fears and longings.

The results of EFT, as measured in a multitude of studies, have been astoundingly positive – better, in fact, than the outcomes of any other therapy that has been offered.