453 Quotes by Susan Cain

Would you be surprised if I told you that the vaudevillean professor and the recluse who prefers a life of the mind are one and.

It’s not always so easy, it turns out, to identify your core personal projects. And it can be especially tough for introverts, who have spent so much of their lives conforming to extroverted norms that by the time they choose a career, or a calling, it feels perfectly normal to ignore their own preferences. They may be uncomfortable in law school or nursing school or in the marketing department, but no more so than they were back in middle school or summer camp.

Introversion – along with its cousins sensitivity, seriousness, and shyness – is now a second-class personality trait, somewhere between a disappointment and a pathology.

Of course, there’s another word for such people: thinkers.

We like to think that we value individuality, but all too often we admire one type of individual – the.

What psychologists call “the need for intimacy” is present in introverts and extroverts alike. In fact, people who value intimacy highly don’t tend to be, as the noted psychologist David Buss puts it, “the loud, outgoing, life-of-the-party extrovert.” They are more likely to be someone with a select group of close friends, who prefers “sincere and meaningful conversations over wild parties.

You may be quicker than others to feel sickened by violence and ugliness, and you likely have a very strong conscience.

In most job interviews, people say they are looking for people skills and emotional intelligence. That’s reasonable, but the question is, how do you define what that looks like?

People who pass us on the street can’t know that we’re clever and charming unless we look it.