22 Quotes by Xandria Ooi

When we feel like we need to measure up or to be better at something because we want to avoid disappointing the person we love, it is much harder to change for the better, because it's hard to change when it's not a change for ourselves, but for other people.

In order to be free from the pain of the past, we have to first accept and forgive the people who have intentionally or unintentionally hurt us in our childhood.

Sometimes you meet people who are beautiful, not just in their physical appearance, but in how warm and open they are. So much of we perceive beauty is influenced by the way someone makes us feel.

When someone needs us, it makes us feel important and significant, so it's also natural to assume that needing someone is a sign pu our love for them.

We can only take responsibility for our own happiness when we don't rely on someone else to complete us.

When we need someone to give to us in a very specific manner, it's because there are needs that we need to fill; and these needs create gaps inside us that heavily influence our definition of what love is.

Our expectations are our standards imposed upon someone else.

Expectations manifest when we impose our standards on the people around us. We often do this with good intentions—we genuinely believe that the person should adopt what we believe because it's a better standard compared to theirs.

Expectations almost always carry the concept of 'should' in our minds, which brings with it furious thoughts of unfairness and indignation.