Give your friendships the magic you would give a romance. Because they're just as important. Actually, for us, they're way more important.

She's happy with who she is. Maybe it's not the heteronormative dream that she grew up wishing for, but... knowing who you are and loving yourself is so much better than that, I think.

The crux of it all was that I did not feel sexual or romantic feelings for anyone. Not a single goddamn person I had ever met or would ever meet.So that really was me.Aromatic.Asexual.

People are really out there just … thinking about having sex all the time and they can’t even help it?’ I spluttered. ‘People have dreams about it because they want it that much? How the – I’m losing it. I thought all the movies were exaggerating, but you’re all really out there just craving genitals and embarrassment. This has to be some kind of huge joke.

Picturing fanfic characters having sex? Great. Fine. Sexy. But picturing myself having sex with anyone, guy, girl, whoever, didn’t interest me. No – it was more than that. It was an immediate fucking turn-off.

Are they also …?’ ‘They’re asexual too.’ ‘Wow.’ Ellis grinned. ‘Well, that makes three of us.’ ‘There are more,’ I said. ‘A lot more. Out there. In the world.’ ‘Really?’ ‘Yeah.’ Ellis stared out of the window, smiling. ‘That would be nice. If there were lots out there.

Sunil said he felt indifferent about sex. I’d never heard anyone talk about sex like that before. Like it was a takeaway cuisine you thought was OK, but you wouldn’t personally choose it.