My feelings of anger always seemed to be telling me what an idiot someone else was – how wrong they were and how right I was. However, as I explored my feelings, specifically anger, I realised that I’d never known anyone who’d gotten smarter as they’d gotten angrier.

Next time you are feeling road rage or any other kind of anger, consider that the anger isn’t telling you about the outer situation, but is instead just reflecting your own thinking in that moment, and that it is pointing out to you a lack of clarity.

When I started to realise that I couldn’t possibly know how I felt about conducting a task before I did it, I stopped using my feelings as a barometer for deciding which tasks to do. I simply started doing the ones that made sense to do first, which was a far better strategy for being more productive.

Our feelings serve as indicators of our state of mind, and our state of mind in turn impacts our performance.

Perhaps what bullies need is not to be shamed or given a taste of their own medicine, but a reminder of who they are.

I invite you to think of anyone against whom you hold any judgements or resentments. Ask yourself if these people really did hurt you or whether your hurt feelings are reflections of your own thinking about their actions. If so, what if you did not need to struggle to forgive them?

It is often in our lowest moments that we find hope.

We often underestimate the impact we have on others.

For my own part, I know that I have been mean, selfish, unkind and judgmental towards others at times. Does this make me a bad person? I used to think so. However, I think it is a side effect of forgetting who we really are.