Healthy striving is self-focused: "How can I improve", Perfectionism is other-focused:"What will they think

Think about what’s pleasurable, not just what’s possible.

Many people think of perfectionism as striving to be your best, but it is not about self-improvement; it's about earning approval and acceptance.

Hope is not an emotion; it's a way of thinking or a cognitive process.

I think a lot of us are multiple things that don't always fit together neatly in a bio box.

Shame: We all have it. It's that gremlin that says 'I'm not enough.' Or, if you're feeling pretty confident,...'ooh, who do you think you are?' Shame always has a seat.

If you're also in the arena and you're putting your ideas out and you're owning them and you're saying "I disagree with you about this and that, I think you've got this wrong" - then not only do I invite that, I freaking love that. I love that. I'm an academic. I'm hardwired for a good debate.

But I don't think it's as dangerous, scary, or terrifying as getting to the end of our lives and wondering, what if I would have shown up?

Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen. It's tough to do that when we're terrified about what people might see or think.