Let’s be honest with ourselves for a moment, shall we. Trying to argue a point, prove we are right—that we are a good person—is more about winning, or quite simply, protect ourselves from losing. It all boils down to fight or flight. Ultimately, when we are driven by these two forces, we end up fighting and fleeing the ultimate truth which is not of this earth.

It’s okay to feel angry, sad, frustrated, and even bitter. But there’s a way out from those feelings. It starts with faith, continues with trust, and is sealed by action.

Challenges come in all shapes and sizes for all people of all demographics. We need to remember that the next time we feel the urge to scream at the person cutting us off on the road.

Usually when someone is angry, we hear their angry words. Instead, try hearing the unspoken: I am scared, I am frustrated, I am insecure, I am vulnerable, I feel threatened.

If someone lashes out in anger at you, it’s best not to take it personally. Instead, move on and realize it’s usually something that has little to do.