I do not especially like the idea that one day I shall be tapped on the shoulder and informed, not that the party is over but that it is most assuredly going on—only henceforth in my absence. ... Much more horrible, though, would be the announcement that the party was continuing forever, and that I was forbidden to leave.

I personally want to "do" death in the active and not the passive, and to be there to look it in the eye and be doing something when it comes for me.