Nobody has spoiled your vyavahaar (worldly interactions). You yourself have spoilt it. You are whole and sole responsible for your vyavahaar.

If you take care of the relative, then the relative itself will help you entirely.

There is no problem with the relative, but the problem is with the fact that you are becoming one with the relative.

When kashays (anger-pride-deceit-greed) do not result in punishment, it is called Gnan (Knowledge of the Self). When kashays result in punishment, it is called agnan (ignorance of the Self).

Vishay (sensual pleasure) is just vishay alone. However when indulging in sensual pleasure, if one has ignorance of the Self, then kashay (anger-pride-deceit-greed) arises, and if One has Knowledge of the Self, then kashay will not arise.

A veil over the Knowledge of the Self (Gnan) is agnan, and a veil over the Vision of the Self (Darshan) is adarshan. What would be the outcome of agnan and adarshan? Kashay (anger-pride-deceit-greed). And what is the result of Gnan-Darshan? Samadhi (freedom from the effects of mental, physical, and externally-induced problems).

Permanent Knowledge is itself the Self indeed. The Self is Knowledge and that indeed is the absolute Self. There is no need to search for any other absolute Self. That absolute Self resides within you; not only is the Soul in existence but also the one with a physical body. A visible representation (murti) also exists and so does the One that is invisible (amurta)!

A doubt that in reality, 'I am not this' has arisen regarding the knowledge of 'Who am I'. From the moment a doubt sets in about the knowledge that one has known up until now, 'we' [the Gnani Purush] Know that the time has come for that knowledge to break! The knowledge over which doubts arise, that knowledge will dissipate. Doubts can never arise over real Knowledge.

There is no mention of the Soul (Atma) at all in all that which is present in the world. To See-Know (jovu-jaanvu) the worldly interaction (vyavahar; the relative), that is indeed known as the Soul!