Gender wars in a relationship. Men try to destroy the physical beauty of a women. Women try to destroy Man's life (career, reputation,dignity,living life) when they fight.

Surviving R Kelly is surviving any person who thinks they have super authority, or power and influence on others . Using their career, position, money, body in manipulating & taking advantage of others sexuality.

Choose to live, by choosing to leave.

Helping a person who does not want help or who is not ready to be helped. That person will see you as a problem.

Real man don’t abuse women. Real man walks away when the women is ill-discipline and is not worth it.

Abuse is not only physically. You can abuse someone emotionally and verbally. There is no abuse that is big or small, most important or less important, most serious or less serious, because every abuse is wrong and must stop.

Trying to control someone or trying to control someone's life is an abuse on its own.

The reason why? gender based violence won’t end soon, It is because people are fighting people they don't like. They are not fighting the problem which is gender based violence and are not fighting the people who are wrong, which are offenders, because when GBV it is done by their favorites they decide to be mute instead of reprimanding their favorites.

We have become a generation of using big English words to box, manipulate, degrade, dehumanize and to abuse other people. Especially if those people are not doing what we like or what we want them to do.