Most of us tend to belittle all suffering except our own," said Mary. "I think it's fear. We don't want to come too near in case we're sucked in and have to share it.

We all of us need to be toppled off the throne of self, my dear," he said. "Perched up there the tears of others are never upon our own cheek.

All human beings have their otherness and it is that which cries out to the heart.

Understanding is a creative act in a dimension we do not see.