You must be proud of your enemy then your enemy's successes are also your successes. Be proud of your competitors. Just dont follow them

If you think your abilities are fixed you will set for yourself what you call "performance goals" to maintain that self image but if you have a growth mindset, you'll set "learning goals" - goals that will drive you to take risks without worrying so much about how you look

If everyone is thinking alike, someone is not thinking

Be interested in finding the best way, not in having your way