A gentle answer turns away wrath.

Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only then can we give encouragement. With verbal encouragement, we are trying to communicate, "I know. I care. I am with you. How can I help?" We are trying to show that we believe in him and in his abilities. We are giving credit and praise.

Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself.

Love doesn't erase the past, but it makes the future different.

Love is not the answer to everything, but it creates a climate of security in which we can seek answers to those things that bother us.

People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need.

True love cannot begin until the in-love experience has run its course. We cannot take credit for the kind and generous things we do while under the influence of the obsession.

Often we fail to consider the fact that our social, spiritual, and intellectual interests are miles apart. Our value systems and goals are contradictory, but we are in love.

** إن فهم اللغات الخمس للحب وتعلم كيفية التحدث باللغة الاساسية للحب لشريك حياتك من الممكن أن يؤثر بشكل كبير على سلوك الزوج أو الزوجة فإن الناس يتصرفون بشكل مختلف عندما يكون خزان الحب لديهم ممتلئا.