Couples often live out years of falsehood trying to protect and save a relationship, all the while destroying any chance of real relationship.

The idea of submission is never meant to allow someone to overstep another's boundaries. Submission only has meaning in the context of boundaries, for boundaries promote self-control and freedom. If a wife is not free and in control of herself, she is not submitting anyway. She is a slave subject to a slave driver, and she is out of the will of God.

And things don't change in a marriage until the spouse who is taking responsibility for a problem that is not hers decides to say or do something about it.

When you cease to blame your spous eand own the problem as yours, you are then empowered to make changes to solve your problem.