We are, all of us, utterly committed and deeply devoted to our "style", our "way", our "approach to life." We have absolutely no intention of giving it up. Not even for love. So God creates an environment where we have to. It's called marriage.

There is no greater place for damage (than marriage) because there is no greater place for glory.

God lures us into marriage through love and sex and loneliness, or simply the fact that someone finally paid attention - all those reasons that you got married in the first place. It doesn't really matter, he'll do whatever it takes. He lures us into marriage and then he uses it to transform us.

Most men wait to move until victory is guaranteed.

It is not love to ignore your spouse's sin, or brokenness, or immaturity.

Marriage is the sanctuary of the heart. You have been entrusted with the heart of another human being. Whatever else your life's great mission will entail, loving and defending this heart next to you is part of your great quest.

Shouting is obvious; not talking to each other slips by.

If one of you is walking through a dark valley personally of course it affects the marriage. But it is not about the marriage.

The authors challenge that the marriage in which one cannot express disappointment has become an idol – The Thing that Cannot Be Questioned.