Without having a vision for life, people perish. They waste their lives clinging onto the past, and allowing the weight of their regrets, mistakes, failures and missed opportunities to hold them back from drawing up compelling life visions for themselves, filled with goals bigger than themselves.

Most people don’t like to admit they’re wrong or accept that their perception of reality isn’t helpful nor accurate. People become attached to their beliefs because their identities are so tightly wound up in them. The fondness of familiarity sets people up for failure: their goals get put on hold because they’re burdened with limiting assumptions about their capabilities and potential to go with the flow, take risks and make things happen.

It’s only through deconstructing ourselves that we are able to rebuild ourselves upon a more stable foundation of self-acceptance and go on to lead more empowered, autonomous and significant lives.

Both inferiority and superiority complexes are disempowered states of being: both states inadvertently depend upon other people to make the person feel special and worthy in some way

Your greatest problems in life aren’t the actions you take, the emotions you have or the things that happen to you: they’re the thoughts you fail to manage.

Because no one teaches us the distinction between subjective, external influence and universal truth, we crystallise negative beliefs we develop in childhood and carry them through to adulthood and live in an endless cycle of stress, depression, anxiety and of beating ourselves up for being the way we are.

If your negative bias is skewed against your favour because you believe you’re inherently wrong and not good enough, nearly everything you do or experience will feed into and support your negative bias and limiting beliefs because one factor is always constant: you.

Whilst it may feel comforting and easier to view your life through a filter of It’s not my fault. They made me do it. It made me this way, this submission to a state of powerlessness is not only debilitating but also smacks of immaturity. Whether or not you’re conscious of your desires, the victim mentality is driven by two core needs: sympathy and vindication.