We don’t learn things that help us to thrive when we are in survival mode. It’s only when we are in sensual (safety) mode that we do.

A ship in a harbour is a safe ship, but that's not what ships are built for. In the same way, a woman in a good relationship feels safe. But truth is, she innately knows she was not built for unnecessary safety, but rather for a sea of passion.

Safety is a sensual state. You cannot feel sensual unless you’re feeling safe.

Your reluctance to grow may be feeding your illusion of safety, but truth is, it's a big sign of cowardice. You're actually rejecting a HUGE OPPORTUNITY to learn how to meet the deeper needs of others.