We live in a society that regards death as a defeat for medical science rather than a part of life. In a culture that allows little place for death in the public area, grief becomes a private affair, viewed as a luxury we cannot afford.

Concluding a life takes time.

Death is absolute: either you're dead or you're not.

We are all amateurs at grief, although sooner or later every one of us will lose someone close to us.

Grief grinds slowly; it devours all the time it needs.