Don’t let anyone tell you how long it will take for you to heal—but be aware that time is passing, whether you’re healing or not.

Do not lie to yourself about the fact of death, choosing instead to become consumed by the psychological reaction to it—what we call grief.

But I don’t WANT it to get easier! I don’t want to get over him!

Don’t pretend you’re OK, when it feels as if your heart has been ripped from your body but you’re not lucky enough to die along with it.

Sometimes the busier we allow ourselves to be, the more anxious and upset we are when alone again.

I’ll stick around for seven months,’ I tell him, ‘but after that I’m not making any promises.

Do not underestimate the immense power of love and its unexplainable mysteries.

It’s a big world out there. I’d forgotten how big it is.

I’m scared shitless I’m gonna wake up twenty years from now and still not have finished writing a book.’He looks me in the eye. ‘You’re probably right about that – as long as you know that it’ll have been your choice.