You fall for a person, not a type.

Falling in love is part choice, part fate. But how do you decide when to stop loving someone?

You can’t buy love. But you also can’t help who you fall in love with. You just have to be able to let yourself see them for who they really are, not just who you see them as. It’s hard, getting past your own perceptions, past the hurts that scar you along the way. But I think that’s the real lesson in life: being willing to revisit your assumptions before they keep you from living happily ever after.

Giving yourself permission to fall for someone is hard. Well, terrifying, really,” he amends. “But sometimes we have to let go of how we think things should go and just let them happen. It’s the simplest and most difficult part of giving a relationship a go.