We do not "get over" a death. We learn to carry the grief and integrate the loss in our lives. In our hearts, we carry those who have died. We grieve and we love. We remember.

Grieving is intense and it is non-stop intense. Even if things are quiet, and you're sitting there in your chair, kind of staring off into space, inside, the intensity is raging. - Lori Ennis

We do not have control over many things in life and death but we do have control over the meaning we give it.

Honestly, death took on a totally different meaning for me in the past years.....I don't feel the fear or trepidation about death that I used to feel. I felt tired of living.

Trust your partner's way of coping to be the best they are able to do and be at every moment in time.

Just because we lost a life, doesn't mean we have to lose ourselves. - Tamara Gabriel

The best advice that I got during counseling: Don't judge your spouse's grief response. Give them the freedom to grieve their own way. - Rachel Crawford

There is no right way to grieve; there is only your way to grieve and that is different for everyone.

When my wife and I lost our son, we had similar but very different experiences. She felt she was caught in a blizzard and she doesn't remember the six months after we lost him. For me, it was like everything that I had known burnt to the ground, this field or forest that was turned to ash, burning, smoldering. How do I make sense of a world where this can happen? - Sean Hanish