In the moment when I truly understand my enemy, understand him well enough to defeat him, then in that very moment I also love him. I think it’s impossible to really understand somebody, what they want, what they believe, and not love them the way they love themselves. And then, in that very moment when I love them.... I destroy them.

When you really know somebody you can’t hate them. Or maybe it’s just that you can’t really know them until you stop hating them.

You made them hate me." Said Ender"So? What will you do about it? Crawl in a corner? Start kissing their little backsides so they'll love you again? There's only one thing that will make them stop hating you. And that's being so good at what you do that they can't ignore you. I told them you were the best. Now you damn well better be." -Graff

That's why he hates you, because you didn't suffer when he tried to punish you.

Being here alone with nothing to do, I've been thinking about myself too. Trying to understand why I hate myself so badly.

In the moment when I truly understand my enemy, understand him well enough to defeat him, then in that very moment I also love him...

Religion is tied to the deepest feelings people have. The love that arises from that stewing pot is the sweetest and strongest, but the hate is the hottest, and the anger is the most violent.

There's only one thing that will make them stop hating you. And that's being so good at what you do that they can't ignore you

But when it comes to human beings, the only type of cause that matters is final cause, the purpose. What a person had in mind. Once you understand what people really want, you can't hate them anymore. You can fear them, but you can't hate them, because you can always find the same desires in your own heart.