You ironically have to have a very strong ego structure to let go of your ego. You need to struggle with the rules more than a bit before you throw them out. You only internalize values by butting up against external values for a while.

Our wounds are the only thing humbling enough to break our attachment to our false self.

We do not handle suffering. Suffering handles us.

Every missed rite of passage leads to a new rigidification of the personality.